Being a parent

Being a parent isn't easy.

When I became one myself, my respect for my own parents increased quite drastically. It's a real Rite of Passage.

Everyone's journey of parenthood is different, comes with more or less tools and support. Being a parent requires us to level up to be able to show up in the best way possible.

We can no longer continue being in our wounded child as much. If we do, it can have lasting effects on our children. It's important to notice any unmet needs from childhood or current life, that may still require attention, as the risk is that we stay a child (inside) - which means that our child may need to step in as our parent, friend or partner.

No one is perfect and whilst it's important to have love and compassion for our own hurt inner child and it's needs - it's our responsibility to do our own healing work, so we can be there for our children's needs.

Bert Hellinger, Family Constellations, Orders of Love talks about the natural order of love being; parent giving to their child, the child will continue giving to their children.

This for me doesn't mean 'over giving' either. I don't think it's healthy when the parent gives too much, neglecting their own needs. What they are then teaching the child is that they don't have to consider other people's needs.

Balance is key.

Helping our children and future generations to learn self-awareness, being more in tune with their needs, whilst being good listeners to other people's needs, feels like a great step forward to create a more sustainable world.

When the dance between giving and receiving is in harmony, with the children of the future being more in touch with the essence in their hearts and with better communication skills, imagine how the world could change!

Here's my little bug Yin - I appreciate her kindness and ability to be humble whilst growing in strength too.

Let's change inflatable egos - with authentic relating. All the hard work and dedication I've put in to show up as a mother has all been worth it! I learn something every day.

What are you grateful for about your child and yourself as a parent?

It you are not a parent, what are you grateful for about yourself learning to parent yourself?